Welcome back everyone.
Thanks for following My Big Day Journey – Part 2.
After my ROM, I have about 1 year to prepare my wedding.
After my ROM, I have about 1 year to prepare my wedding.
Every woman have dream wedding.
Me too…
Wana have my own perfect wedding.
Well… Now we have to make our dream come
true.
Where to start???
First of all, we must remember...
Definitely there will be some conflicts during the preparation process.
WEDDING IS NOT JUST ABOUT "U & ME", IS ABOUT BOTH FAMILIES.
Definitely there will be some conflicts during the preparation process.
If there are any issues, sit down and discuss together with both families.
Achieve win-win agreement and the process will be smooth.
PLANNING A WEDDING IS NOT EASY
It can be very challenging and
stressful but also a wonderful part of life.
Think positive, relax and enjoy the
process.
The key is to stay organized, try stick to your budget and allow plenty of time to achieve everything.
Try not to let friends and families overwhelm you with all of their opinion and advice.
3 main peoples will affect the process.
I) Bride and Groom II) Both Families and Relatives III) Friends (兄弟和姐妹)
CREATE A WEDDING PLANNING CHECKLIST
This checklist will help you keep track on tasks that need to complete in a stipulated time frame.
After doing some research, below are my own set of Wedding Planning Checklist.
Feel free to view.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B4-n1EGROY6PX09qalBVTzFwc1U/view?usp=sharing
The selection decision depend on vendor quality & services and most important, your budget.
I had engaged some vendor below for my Big Day.
It is crucial for both parents to have same concept of the Guideline and Etiquette.
Otherwise, there will be lots of argument.
You may prevent this issue by employ a Bride's Chaperone (Dai Kam Jie).
They are the expert in this field and will guide us for the process.
Therefore, this will minimize the conflicts among them.
Request for Marrying the Bride (提亲)
A gathering/dinner between 2 families must be arrange to discuss about the betrothal gifts before the betrothal day.
https://elevenbus.blogspot.sg/2016/10/my-big-day-journey-part-3_14.html
CREATE A WEDDING PLANNING CHECKLIST
This checklist will help you keep track on tasks that need to complete in a stipulated time frame.
After doing some research, below are my own set of Wedding Planning Checklist.
Feel free to view.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B4-n1EGROY6PX09qalBVTzFwc1U/view?usp=sharing
VENDOR RECOMMENDATION
There are wide selection of vendor.The selection decision depend on vendor quality & services and most important, your budget.
I had engaged some vendor below for my Big Day.
Below details are for your references.
Banquet Venue
Lim Tian Puan Restaurant (L.T.P - 林镇潘)
Address: No 251, Jalan Tun Sri
Lanang, 75100 Melaka, Malaysia
Contact: +606 282 2737
Invitation Card and Decoration
handle by L.T.P
Florist
My Flower Bouquet was prepared by
my close friend.
Paradise Flower House (Not engaged but recommended)
Address: No 331, Jalan Ong Kim
Wee, 75300 Melaka, Malaysia
Contact: +6012 628 6503 / +06-281
1998
Alice Florist (Not engaged but recommended)
Address: No 301 & 303, Jalan Ong Kim Wee,75300 Melaka, Malaysia
Contact: +6016 607 2180 / +606-281 7798
Make-Up Artist
Suki Meoly Make-Up & Hairstyle
Design Academy
Contact: +6017 632 6963
Raymond Gan Make-Up &
Hairstylish
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raymond.gan.31
Actual Day
Photographer
EK Dan Photography
Address: No 18 Jalan Inang 4,
Taman Paya Rumput Utama, Melaka, Malaysia
Contact:
+6014 968 0178
Previously EK and Team are
only focus on Actual Day Photo Shooting.
Now they
had open their own studio and covering more services.
Bridal Package
The White Weddings
Address: 1 Jalan KSB 11, Taman
Kota Syahbandar, Melaka, Malaysia
Contact: +606 288 0177
Actual Day
Videographer
Big Day Videography
Website: www.bigday-video.com
CHINESE WEDDING TRADITION
STEP BY STEP GUIDELINE AND ETIQUETTE
Otherwise, there will be lots of argument.
You may prevent this issue by employ a Bride's Chaperone (Dai Kam Jie).
They are the expert in this field and will guide us for the process.
Therefore, this will minimize the conflicts among them.
Request for Marrying the Bride (提亲)
The groom’s parent will employ a Bride's Chaperone (媒人/大妗姐) to present gifts of interest in
marrying the bride.
Request for Chinese Birth Date (生辰八字)
My husband’s parent requested our Chinese Birth Date (生辰八字) and
consulted a Master to check for our compatibility (合对八字).
Once we are compatible, we may proceed to select wedding auspicious
date.
Selection of a Wedding Auspicious Date (择吉日)
Young couple basically select date based on date represent significant
value, banquet venue availability or random Saturday / Sunday.
However, parents are very concern in date selection because they want
to ensure your wedding can go smoothly. Usually they will consult Fortune
Teller to get an auspicious date.
My wedding auspicious date and time was selected by the Master according
to bride, groom and both families’ birth date.
Auspicious Dates are also required for Betrothal (过大礼) and Bridal Bed Installation (安床).
Betrothal (过大礼)
The purpose of betrothal (过大礼) is to show the sincerity of Groom
families and a promise to take good care of the bride. It is a way of respect
and gratitude to the bride’s parent.
Symbolize as wealth, abundance of descendants, a good shelter, sweet
and loving marriage.
A gathering/dinner between 2 families must be arrange to discuss about the betrothal gifts before the betrothal day.
Betrothal day usually done 2 – 3 weeks before the wedding day where a
senior relative accompany the groom to present Bride Price (聘金) and
pre-discussed betrothal gifts to the bride’s family.
Bride Price (聘金)
Specific price (money or goods) given to bride’s family by the Groom.
A virgins basically having a higher price or a negotiated price
based on the perceived worth of the girl (beautiful or especially industrious
women being more highly valued).
Bride’s Dowry (嫁妆)
The dowry is provided by the bride’s family is to aid the beginning of
their daughter marriage.
Represent wealth of the bride’s family, a firm display the love for
their daughter and blessing for their marriage.
Return Gift (回礼)
Upon receipt betrothal gifts from the groom, bride’s family should
return a portion of the gifts.
This symbolize the bride’s family is not greedy and groom’s family over
generous.
Most importantly, the two families share their good fortune.
Bridal Bed Installation (安床)
The essential practice is done by the Groom’s parent to bless the
couple with good health and abundance of fortune and offspring.
Hair Combing (上头)
The ritual of both parents will comb their children’s hair as a meaning
of moving on to the next stage of life in adulthood.
Auspicious blessings are uttered with each stroke to bless their
children marriage.
Wedding Day (大喜之日)
I will cover more details of the below steps later that need to be done
on Wedding Day.
- Setting Off (出门)
- Fetching the Bride (接新娘)
- Entering Groom’s House (过门)
- Tea Ceremony (敬茶)
- Bride’s Home Visit (三朝回门)
- Wedding Banquet (宴席)
https://elevenbus.blogspot.sg/2016/10/my-big-day-journey-part-3_14.html
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